What Makes a Person Attractive?

We are collectively obsessed with the idea that an attractive person is, first and foremost, someone who looks terrific. But that’s to ignore the widespread phenomenon of the objectively good looking individual who nevertheless fails to hold much appeal – and vice versa. Here is a guide to the psychology of that too seldom earnestly-studied issue: hotness.
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“Understandably enough, our societies pay vast attention to the idea of ‘sexiness’; far more questionably, they tempt us to believe that it might be easy to understand what this quality consists of. The leading suggestion takes its starting point from the biological sciences: we learn that sex aims at successful reproduction and genetic fitness in the coming generation. Therefore ‘sexiness’ must logically comprise a host of semi-conscious signals of fertility and of resistance to disease: bilateral facial symmetry, large bright pupils, full lips, youthful skin and melanin-rich hair…”


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  • What do you think makes someone "attractive"? Let us know in the comments below and make sure you do not miss any of our future films by subscribing to our channel and turning on notifications.

    The School of Life 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • https://youtu.be/Q-xzexQ9MZc find out why you're attractive

    solafida 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Who makes these videos

    Yes Bana Tshirts 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • stop…

    3 E H L 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Like, if you're probably gonna die alone, and join the club!

    linclip 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • I couldnt understand much. Too wordy

    chindoo 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • The world is over populated. People should stick to the Biological requirements or design in finding mates.

    Zenbeach Traveler 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • For example, Lady Gaga isn't very physically attractive alone. But her personality? She's really hot…lol At least in American Horror Story

    xinic5 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • You are mixing sexual arousal with love… I usually like tsol videos but this one might confuse even more people.

    OdS 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Exactly…!…Love this approach …

    Di Bn 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Bullshit

    MERCUTIO 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • 2:45 Damn I did not expect TENTACLE PORN

    Troubled INTJ 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply

    Tex200950 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • If there is ONE thing I have learned about humanity….it's that "attraction" is contagious. People are only ever attracted to people who are seen as attractive to someone else. That's how people determine value. "Well does anyone else like them? No? Then I'm not attracted to them either. Yes? Then I am attracted to them very much." This phenomenon is exactly why women find men more attractive after finding out they are married. And there are a lot of studies to back this up. Kinda crazy. And also sad. Because humans are literally insane.

    chewface 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • What a bunch of hippy dippy beloney

    mattias rockstorm 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • At first, in middle school i thought for the entire time that i was just a ghost, being sad about my physical and unstable emotions at the time, skip a few years later, i changed from an introvertive person to a extrovertive, and one of the people from my middle school (was a guy) said:"Man sometimes i wonder how you can change from a lonely guy trying desperately to impress people, than to being one of the best people i know at being friends with in a while" what i got from that is, Focus on your emotional/personality and dont change your weird quirks that you may have, bc thats what makes you unique/ lovable, now people literally give me nicknames, talk about me and who knows if i catch someone sayin how im attractive (to be fair im below average looks)

    Sedah Plays 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • People brave enough to wander themselves, hence able to look without judgment to the dark corners of others…or as you awesomely put it "simultaneously responsible and marked by a touch of desperation". About this last part….where could I learn more about it?I always had this belief that people touched by this uneasiness towards life are the ones I want around me. Any reading reccomendation would be really appreciated.

    Junior Leme 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Lol wait but then how do assholes and douche bags get so many girls id partners are just turned on by people who are nice and care emotionally? those people dont get the girls only the few. no but really this video is pretty accurate deep down

    SoberRS 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Money and good looks makes any man more attractive.

    Back Bay Man52 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • These animations where straight upp disgusting tho

    MK64 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Face height frame

    John Miller 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • money, looks and personality.
    if someone has money, they dont Need looks or personality to attract others.
    if they have looks but no personality or money they attract people, until people can see past what is in front of them.
    if they have personality it can trump not looking or having that much money.

    most people will throw out the idea of good looks or good personality if someone has enough money. take the kardashians. horrible personalities, plastic looks but they got money so people Think they are attractive.

    d b 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Its just of thouse thing that cant be explained. Its not just looks even thou looks are important. Its some other form of Force.

    Peter Hedlöf 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
  • Whatever it is, I don't have it

    Nripesh Dhungana 01/31/2020 7:47 am Reply
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